Tuesday, April 28, 2020

Day 44


Day 44, self quarantine 

Is Mercury in retrograde or something?

It’s not, I just checked.  We’re cool until June 17.

Then what the hell?

Everything’s okay, we’re good, but this week feels challenging.  I knew I had some deadlines at work coming up, but I’ve been crazy busy with other stuff like death and furloughs and I guess I haven’t been paying attention.

My boss called to go over our schedule for this week.

“Can you get me the Arbitration Statement today and hopefully the Mediation Statement tomorrow?  We’ll wait until Wednesday for the Petition to Enforce.”

Wait, what?  Each one of them is a major project which will spill over into a couple of days.  In my former life, I could knock this stuff out in an hour.  Complex litigation world is a whole ‘nother story.  But hey hey, I really get to write.  I can turn an accident into a gripping novel 😜

“I thought the Statements weren’t due until May,” I said weakly.

Silence on the other end of the phone.

Uh oh, what’s today?

I clicked on the calendar. Crap!

So I’m busy beyond belief.  Work wise, it’s going to be my hardest week of quarantine.

I started my Arb Statement and threw myself into it.  I liked this case a lot and could have a lot of fun with both the liability and damages sections, which is pretty rare.

“Hi.”

I looked up.  Omg, Gary, with Jake behind him, wagging his tail.  I didn’t even hear them come upstairs.

“Hi, boys!  What’s going on?”

“Whatcha doing?”

“Uhhh...working?”

Oy.

“Oh.  Okay.  Well, if you want to take a break, I just made a fresh pot of coffee.”

I looked at the time.  It was 8:45 a.m. I’d barely started.

Oy.

“I’ll be down in a bit,” I said.

Why does Gary look so sad? 

I tried to go back to my Statement but I had a lump of worry in my gut.  I made a few halfhearted attempts and sighed.

I went downstairs to check on him.

He was sitting on the sofa with Jake, laughing and watching a repeat of the Daily Show.

Wait, what’s this?  Is that Andrew Cuomo?

“Yeah.  I watch this every morning after you go upstairs,” he admitted.

And so the mystery of where Gary has been getting the news about the virus has been solved and I could not be happier.

I went back upstairs, relieved.

About an hour in...this time I heard them.

“Jake, want to say Hi to Mommy?”

Oh my God.

Haha I love them so much but they can’t keep doing this to me.  I am weak!

So wish me luck, today I am going to get Gary started on a project around here.  I’m not joking when I say I was in a really bad mood when I woke up yesterday and was kinda surprised how good I felt after I straightened up.  Usually I hate housework.  But it totally took me out of my bad head and I felt so satisfied when I was finished.

There’s so much that needs to be done around here.  I’ve never been a Honey Do wife.  We’ll get into the psychological reasons for that later, but let’s just say it’s come back to bite me in the ass big time.  We’re in strange limbo land with Gary insisting no contractors, he’ll do the work himself and me not wanting to be a nagging bitch.

Oh well.  I guess today I put on bitch face.  The trick will be doing it so nicely he thinks it’s his idea.

Which is why I’ve decided project #1 is our backyard.  It’s a tiny plot big enough for a barbecue, table with umbrella and chairs and a couple trees but since the kids moved out ten years ago, it’s a nasty, overgrown bicycle graveyard.

Suddenly the ability to swing open the sliding glass doors from my living room to a real garden with blooming flowers and herbs seems crucial.

And Gary adores gardening.  Every Mother’s Day he fills our window boxes in the front of the house with plants and he grows tomatoes underneath.  I jokingly call it his ghetto garden.

He’s got a whole back “yard” to have fun with!  I’m going to remind him today.

That’s my plan and I’m sticking to it.

I’m going to ask him to recreate this picture 😂😂😂

Oy.
 

Monday, April 27, 2020

Day 43

Day 43, self quarantine:

So how do you know if you have PTSD?

Are the symptoms waking up at 4:00 a.m, feeling nauseous beyond belief and like your life is spinning totally out of control?

Or am I just going into drama queen hypochondriac mode permanently?

Ugh.

I got triggered watching the news before I went to bed last night.

Philadelphia school children will have to wear masks when they return to school this fall.

Omg.  Is there a sight more heartbreaking?

Of course there is.  But this is now in my top ten.  I went right to a mental image of young Julie and Eric in elementary school wearing backpacks and masks and couldn’t shake it.

I know, I know.  It goes against everything I preach.

I should have shut the television off at that point but I continued to watch, and lucky me, at 11:00 at night I learned the CDC added new coronavirus symptoms making you eligible for testing: chills, repeated shaking, muscle pain, purple spots on toes...

Purple spots on toes?!

Oh.  It’s a sign of blood clots.

Blood clots?!

What the hell kind of disease is this?  

It’s really feeling like the end of the world.

So I probably didn’t go to bed in the best mental state.

Once I realized I wasn’t falling back asleep at 4:00 a.m., I went downstairs.  Apparently that was my next mistake.

Up until this weekend, my years long  routine has remained the same, even all through quarantine.  I wake up hours before Gary on Saturday morning and straighten up the downstairs.  Once everything is all clean and beautiful, I eat a bowl of cereal and watch one of my taped food tv shows as a reward to myself.  It’s an especially great plan this time of year during my favorite food porn show, Top Chef.  I sit here all zen and proud of myself in my clean, pretty living room.

I guess this Saturday I skipped part one of the Saturday plan and went right for the Honey Nut Cheerios.

What’s insane is that I didn’t even realize it until I came downstairs this morning.

How did I not notice it yesterday?

Holy hell, it’s such a mess in here that I can’t even count on newly unemployed Gary to straighten up, he’ll do a half assed job and make me nuts. Omg, he’s so messy!

So right now, I’m debating my choices.  It’s 5:30 a.m.  If I start now, I can have the downstairs looking great by 8:00 a.m. easily.

Just in time for me to head upstairs and start work. Grrr.

If I don’t do it, though, I’m going to sit here getting more progressively upset by the minute.  I can’t function in chaos like this.  And I’m going to end up taking my anger and resentment out on Gary, when just a little over an hour ago I was tossing and turning in bed, crazed with worry that he might get the virus.  I’m not gonna lie, I went down a pretty dark path mentally, as one does at 4:00 a.m. in the quiet dark.  Especially if one is a stark raving lunatic.

It’s what drove me out of bed.

Okay, I think I’ve worked this out by writing about it.

Just call me Susie Homemaker 😜

Sigh...

I know it’s an oxymoron, but Happy Monday.